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Office novels: 9 reasons pro and contra

Office novels: 9 reasons pro and contra

Behind the season of holidays and the romanticist of early autumn very much has to get the new dizzy novel. And what, if it will be the office novel? Whether such relations are justified and that they can bring to us. So, we will consider the office novel comprehensively: all pro's and con's. In the column we will write down pro the reasons and factors which favour to novel occurrence, and in the column contra - possible negative consequences.

FOR


1. Shortage of time. Often work occupies time most part from people. At many after heavy labour everyday life any more does not remain possibility and desire to leave from the house. Therefore for acquaintances and dialogue there is only one place: work.

2. Parties at office. In some labour collectives the custom is extended to celebrate holidays together, at office. And after "joint drinking of spirits" and "provozhany home", there can be everything, everything.

3. Business trips. A trip to other city with the nice employee - too favorable possibility for occurrence of the office novel. Become interested it is recommended to look a film "the Most charming and attractive".

4. The chief and the secretary. It already became a theme for numerous jokes and actions of proceeding. Quite often subordinated definitely hint, that the way to successful career lays through a sofa of the chief. Women-subordinates, strangely enough, not always on it are pushed by purely material reasons. Subconsciously many of them at the decision to go on communication with the employer moves complex Elektry. Especially the interested is advised to read Genrika Ibsen's play "Rosmersgolm", and also Z.Freud's sketches about this literary work.

5. An overall aim. Often the people who were engaged in by one business, gradually have similar interests, tastes, predilections. Together they move to one purpose. In show business and sports widespread relations in steams "the actress - the director", "the singer - the producer", "model - the photographer", "the sportswoman - the trainer" and t.d. Such novels too are often caused all by the same complex Elektry as in the majority of similar cases the man is more senior and is more skilled, and acts in in a role of the instructor, or the leader. Meet, the truth, and examples of an Oedipus complex (we will assume, Alla and Fillip).

6. Family business. It is hard to be the wife of the millionaire, feeling in "a gold cage"! (Though in our corner of the world it is birdies rare). Following advice of the psychologists, some "new" to occupy with something the wife, but also not to release it far from itself, open specially for it small firm (shop or cafe where it would be the mistress), or take it as the assistant in the business. There are even real examples of prosperity of similar married couples.

7. Specificity of work. When in primordially man's (for example, the military establishment or a civil engineering firm) or female (school, studio) collective comes the person of other floor let even not especially attractive, all start to struggle for its or its attention, sometimes with eagerness which never showed directly in work.

8. Professional qualities. Day by day communicating with the person on work, you receive full representation about its business, personal and mental faculties. Certainly, cases when with the person fall in love for its professional qualities, are extremely rare, but nevertheless happen.

9. Basically, "novels on a workplace" are not limited to affinity directly with the colleague or the chief. Love relations with suppliers, clients, intermediaries, even with schoolmates at school or teachers at institute - office novels all it, in own way. That is under this category all possible types of relations approach in general almost. The exception is made by acquaintances in the street or in a night club, however they, as a rule, are less durable and less often terminate in marriage.

AGAINST

1. The head of firm, whose well-being and the future depend on a state of affairs in it, will always prefer to choose on a key post of the class expert, instead of a cute attractive face or the trouble-free sex car.

2. The woman, decided to receive a post, becoming the mistress of the chief, in the opinion of colleagues can automatically lose the status of the good expert. Henceforth on the first place its sexual qualities, instead of professional abilities are put forward.

3. The office novel, as a rule, brings discomfort in relations with colleagues: employees-men consider a favourite almost as the woman of easy behaviour. Women do not miss a case to prick more painfully: their hostility is so strong, that they at all are not afraid of possible retaliatory sanctions from the chief. Besides, if your beloved - the unique man in collective, consider, that the jealousy and hatred of colleagues to you is provided.

4. The office novel proceeds on eyes of all collective. Quite often "clamped" at each convenient occasion on corners at couple office irritate those who has come to work actually there. Even if colleagues do not test to you personal hostility, all of them will equally discuss your relations - simply "from there is nothing to do". So think twice, whether to become ready you an eternal theme for conversations of leisure gossips and constantly to receive free advice concerning your private life from "well-wishers" and "public workers" type SHurochki from "the Office novel" (the such are not translated).

5. If you are a chief (chief) there is a probability, that your subordinate enters relations with you exclusively for the sake of promotion. It is necessary to you?

6. The novel on a workplace distracts attention from the work, as that. Strongly uvlekshis "love affairs", you together with the favourite can simply "take off" from work for idle times, proguly, delay, the inattentive relation to official duties or even "no-purpose use" working premises.

7. If you for the sake of career get communication with the chief or the employer, does not prevent to remember always, that in "one fine day" other, younger and nice pretender and then you remain with the broken trough, moreover and with tarnished reputation can occupy your place.

8. Love relations in steams "the inspector - the person on remand", "the lawyer - the client", "the attending physician (including and the psychoanalyst) - the patient", "the teacher - the pupil" in general are forbidden by all hand-written and unwritten laws. They not only stir to successful and objective process of work, but also can be hazardous to health (sincere and physical) or even lives.

9. Relations tend to develop. Approaching, colleagues start to see and out of service or even to live together. And whether you are ready to observe day by day the same person - and on work, and houses? And, even if are ready, ask one more question: and whether you will be daily ready to see it on work if your relations deteriorate? Whether you can work effectively, constantly observing the man who has broken to you heart, or, on the contrary, the neurasthenic and revnivtsa, pursuing you even after you have thrown it?