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What is the insult and as with it to struggle

The insult is a mix of the aggression turned inside and outside. The most painful component of any insult when, that is called, has hooked is when you understand, that the offender of the rights. And the more strongly this component – the more strongly and insult. Roughly speaking, offend not us, we offend ourselves. We offend that unconsciously we agree with any is conditional-bad act (or judgement) in the address.

The it is less in insult a component of the aggression turned inside, the to a lesser degree it is insult, and in bolshej – aggression, the obvious and suppressed desire to hit those back.

Are sensitive all. Simply at all the senzitivnye points, "themes". To offend it is possible, having struck the person in that place in which the considerable quantity of "the nervous terminations is concentrated, conditionally speaking. In that "theme", in which at it a maximum quantity of mess, an ambiguity and questions to itself.

The most simple and effective way will cope with insult if not completely to be released from insult, at least, to weaken it is it to express the feelings. At least – to admit to itself: Yes, I am offended and to try to understand: what so has strongly hooked? As a maximum – it is necessary to express insult and to the offender. Unfortunately, this way usually trudnodostizhim.

Would be not absolutely true to assert, that one people recognise own wrongfulness is easier, and another it is heavier. It is heavy to all to recognise own wrongfulness "fastened" on any of such sensitive themes. The more painfully the theme for the person, the more difficult to it in it to behave adequately. And if you understand, that have admitted a certain negligence, roughness or were wrong – out of the theme or out of the person, with this theme connected, here easier to be polite and brought up, it is easy to apologise. Because such action is not connected for us with any difficult internal step, almost a feat.

That to feats, here, of course, there are heroes. But it is not enough of them, as well as on war. In the most important thing and in the most painful the wrongfulness to recognise capable only units. The present courage for this purpose is required.

 

Strangely enough, but many take offence that simply has bothered them to listen to any certain statements, and other person cannot simply understand it. In any case, always it is necessary to reflect, if you have offended someone, or you have offended – a problem not in one person, and it needs to be understood.