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Development of the person

How to survive in the world of men

It is man's, rigid game. Idea, that I here will earn money (on apartment, study of the daughter, operation to the daddy) and will throw, - illusion. Earning money process tightens and is often irreversible. Business you it is simple so will not release. It is such way of life which it is then very difficult to leave back in the housewife. But why some women all the same should earn money? What for they on themselves took this otvestvennost? How at them it turns out? What for they play this man's game?

Standard female career is that: to receive a good post, on work not to be lazy, well to conduct itself and to hold more and more high posts simply at the expense of the professional and human qualities. It is the normal, traditional way very approaching the woman because here all goes by itself, it is a lot of definiteness and predictability, and responsibility is dosed out. That is, in this case the woman would not occupy what considerable post, she all the same answers not for everything, but only for a part. All the same there is an enterprise, the company which "covers" it and while there is this company, the woman on it has shifted a part of responsibility for the life. Even if she the free artist, the owner of a creative trade it in this case the hired worker, to it all the same appoints the salary the employer, it searches for clients and is engaged in its public relations. Even if it the top-manager of high level with the wide rights, it all the same is not free.

Absolutely an another matter, when at the woman the business even if its business is absolutely insignificant and not so attractive. For example, she owns a translational bureau with staff in three persons and absence of office or together with girlfriends shpakljuet walls. How business was insignificant, such woman all the same to some extent influences a state of affairs in the market, on other companies, it receive profit, she assotsiiruet herself with business and puts up money in this business. But whether business by natural quality or it acquired is? Whether this quality in stressful situations or it simply passion which opens unexpectedly for itself is found out?
That in the anamnesis: a pain, passion or severe necessity?

If to speak about motivations it is logical to begin with type rather extended in our country Simply Maria. She is the usual woman with even Soviet education, working mother of family. It had everything as others, yet did not have "something". Any, on Pushkin's expression, a fire promoting it it is obvious to an ornament. More often – treachery of the favourite person, as consequence – divorce, and is very frequent thus together with the husband means of subsistence disappear also. In a word, it unexpectedly appears without the money, one, moreover with one-two children. And this moment very seriously cleans to it brains. Suddenly it appears, that it is necessary to survive not simply, but at least for the sake of children to support a habitual way of life. As a rule, it has a family support: we will admit, mum can take care of the child for some time. And in an extreme situation such woman who never neither a dream, nor spirit which always was FOR the husband, and all life on service from nine to six for the small salary, with fear rises on the feet. To it it is simple anything else does not remain. 15 years ago such women took the big bag and went to Turkey with the borrowed money, or bore the with own hand highly artistically painted chopping boards on the market, or started to trade at crossroads in newspapers. Trade in newspapers grew subsequently in a network of printing booths, checkered trunks with Turkish consumer goods materialised in shop, and then and the network of shops, and chopping boards went for export.

As a rule, simply Maria rely on something concrete and reliable. They will not play a stock exchange or to speculate with mineral oil. Nevertheless, if somebody has told in last life to these scientific working women, medichkam, to clerks from project institutes, that at not so young age they will already risk, sell, buy, persuade, bargain, swear, that is, that they will have everything, as at cinema, they would be surprised inexpressibly. But if you have nothing to lose and it is necessary to feed a family, such internal reserves which did not dream join.

Tatyana Petrovna 20 taught of years at different schools in the Far East, moving with the husband-military man from a place into place. Pupils and parents have remembered its portly, dryish, correct head mistress with the high hairdress dressed on a fashion of twenty years' prescription, classical our stupid person. When years through 10 after it has left on continent, it has met one of the former pupils, that has not believed to the eyes. Tatyana Petrovna has turned to the elegant woman in trousers, has grown thin kgs on 10, postriglas, has got prettier years on 20, is dashing drove avto and in completion of all smoked!!! Tatyana Petrovna has told to the former pupil instructive history. When the container has already been sent, tickets are bought also the work record card with record about dismissal was in a pocket, her husband suddenly admitted to it, that will not go anywhere, that the last some years it loves to distraction other woman from whom now and remains. The correct world of "our stupid person has failed. 20 years on garrisons for the husband-military man have at once lost the price. And the main thing – on fifth ten (to Tatyana Petrovne during that moment it was just executed 42) it remained anybody. The husband during that moment had no other means of subsistence, except military pension which, however, completely was absorbed by needs of a new family. However, as the gentleman, it has informed, that will not apply for a new building in small town situated near Moscow in which they just were going to move when it is all happens. The apartment is the only thing that remains at Tatyana Petrovny, moreover two children-teenagers. Works were not, friends were not, relatives were not, it was in a shock from leaving of the husband and in despair from full absence of prospects (unique it was represented to it to begin once again school career on a new place, but on fifth ten it seemed to it it is absolutely unreal). In the plane, still in tears and snivels, has got to talking with the fellow traveller. Flight was long, and by the end of flight they already had time to discuss everything, that excited both. The fellow traveller too was transferred to the reserve, as well as her husband, and was going to begin a new life. When he has learnt, Tatyana Petrovna on "continent" where exactly will lodge, has quickened. It appears, near to this small town the large military airport which those rough years passed by transport planes weight of commercial cargo by direct calculations from a pocket in a pocket is located. The fellow traveller has asked for Tatyana Petrovny of the help: it still had some communications in the Far East on which he counted, but absolutely was nobody in Moscow. At first Tatyana Petrovna worked as someone like the telephone dispatcher, and in its apartment near to the airport the opportunity of a box and bales of small businessmen with the goods through which children have got used to step constantly expected. Gradually it began to carry out some commissions, to penetrate into accounts department and logistics and when black "cash" began to leave in the past, they with the former fellow traveller, and now the partner, have registered transport firm. In a year they managed to conclude the contract with the large European transport company and to become its representative in Russia. Now bales and boxes by military planes remained lovely history, the account goes on waggons and structures, and the former fellow traveller and the partner has redeemed several years ago the share and has left in other business. Tatyana Petrovna names managers my girls, adores the first grandson and recently has very much taken a great interest in garden design.

It appears, in history of such women there is a surprising quality. At first it is moved by a terrible pain from treachery. Nobody can be trusted. It is necessary to hope only for itself. But from this pain suddenly there is an euphoria: for itself really to hope it is possible! I mistress, I can take care of myself and children. And at them this confidence which in traditsonnoj to the Russian family often happens grows is suppressed. I not so grey, weak, I - strong and powerful. However, all time remains one "but".

In the anamnesis all simply Maria have unfortunate love, treachery, divorce, a pain. Now they can be successful, fine, can even marry, but in quality razdrazhitelja which forces them to move, always there is a mistrust to the world. I do not presume to stop to myself. Because even if I have married the rich person, my carefree existence FOR the husband at any moment can end. I at myself one, and at my children am only I, and I should earn money all time whatever occurred. Simply Maria horosheet, at it grows a self-estimation, financial possibilities grow, she can even establish relations with men, but these women will not be given to them up to the end and never will start up the man in the business.

The risk of "Simply Maria is I cannot believe in happiness, it cannot be, I should remain on the feet, differently all strategy will depart to devils. Hope that there will be a prince and all becomes good, enters into the contradiction with successful business strategy. It all the same observes a distance. Penetration what happens at strong love, is not about Simply Maria, it about the Cinderella or Belosnezhku. And when the love comes to an end and at them the difficult situation begins, they leave in work and by that "are treated".

The type the Wet nurse of family is close to this type. At this woman the husband is, and in a family all is more or less normal. Except a financial side. And then the woman decides to take up the most responsible role and to contain a family. Or it is simple so there were circumstances. For example, it the genius of dialogue, is charming unprecedentedly and can sell, everything, and from one kind of her husband though it and the quite good person, children and pensioners jump aside. Or it has more monetary trade, than the husband. Galina in the beginning 90 than only was not engaged: together with mother they rented warehouses which handed over in subrent, tried to start both sewing shop, and shop derevoobrabotki. And as Galina has finished oil institute, it would like to work on a speciality. And consequently on the money obtained from rent they have bought gasoline tank trucks, and then, occasionally – and the equipment for a filling station. Its husband then worked on state enterprise, relied on the state, and at first at all did not accept concept "commerce". But obstacles to the wife, the truth, did not repair. And then also has at all passed to it to work, when its own enterprise has collapsed. In general, in a case of "the wet nurse of family it is important, that the family of such woman helps it. Very often brothers-sisters work for it, the uncle-aunt, husbands of sisters and distant relatives of the husband. Cousins ask to "attach" jobless children, and it finds it a suitable post. Concept of a family careful "wet nurses" transfer on the personnel. My girls "," my children which children it suits in kindergartens, and him ssuzhivaet money for large purchases is all subordinates of"wet nurses". But also they pay to it in the same. Usually the collective remains with it even during a time of failures and stoically suffers salary delays. But also"wet nurse"completely works on a family. And, not only on the relatives: usually it pays study in high school of children of dissolved sister and builds the house to parents of the husband. Once I was amazed, having learnt, how many one my such acquaintance the Wet nurse of family spends for a beauty salon, and in the answer has heard: you Understand, all these massages-manicures-masks are the only thing, that I do for myself! I work for 12 hours a day, and I simply have no time to spend money. Besides now many money leaves on tutors of the daughter and on payment under the credit for the new car of the husband .

At "Wet nurses" always it is necessary to lose risk the partner. The family keeps either sex, or children, or dialogue. But when children grow, sex is not so interesting, and the general interests ever less to be kept to a family there is nothing (the truth if the woman does not keep it is artificial because so it is necessary). Or the woman will leave, because the partner to it becomes uninteresting, or, that happens, the man does not maintain. A family of my acquaintances a vein in one Ural city. The husband held a decent post of the chief of department on metallurgical manufacture, the wife was the bookkeeper, and in sense of "getter" anything from itself did not represent. The husband has insisted, that it has received higher education, developed. Time when its enterprise has started to experience difficulties has then come, it began to detain the salary, and at it on the contrary, affairs have gone uphill. It has opened the auditor company, the first in this city, and began to earn much more, than the husband. And, very much rejoiced, that in a family brings many money. But the husband could not apprehend it in any way. And once has simply left. Because traditionally brought up man all time lives in a competition condition, it very painfully concerns to that the woman "has bypassed" it and earns more it, that it was realised, and it is not present. Have learnt Gosha from a film Moscow to tears does not trust? The husband of my acquaintance could not even rejoice pleasure Pigmaliona, after all it he "has created" it! And he instead all time suffered, that at it the salary is more, it began to be jealous it of partners, suspected of them its patrons, as a result they have dispersed.

Risk of "the Wet nurse of family also that during any moment it ceases to be perceived as the woman. It becomes mum. Well, and from mum what demand? Mum always something should, to care of mum it is necessary only when she dies, and in general she should care.

Happens, that the husband of "Wet nurse" again rises on feet and starts to earn, the financial situation in a family does not depend any more only on its money, and suddenly it appears what to throw own business very difficultly, and to leave business it cannot any more. And that began for the sake of money and for the sake of livelihood, appears so rich, so interesting, so powerful, giving resources, a life what to refuse it very difficultly.

Unlike Simply Maria and the Wet nurse of family which businesswomen become at will of circumstances, there are women who are born the such. To all winds to spite, a horse at full tilt will stop, and in a forehead the star burns. It is all about them. In a children's garden this woman already supervises over contemporaries in a sandbox. During Soviet times it became the commander of an asterisk, then - the head and komsorgom, then – the secretary of committee of Komsomol. Such person, it... And, notice, "he" would be desirable to tell!. Such woman all time is in the lead, she ego-trips as the woman not through short skirts-prichesochki, and on a dashing game ahead of group. Certainly, when it becomes more senior and finishes high school, it can even work as the ordinary expert any time, but all the same dreams about something bolshem do not give it rest. It is not known, when in it it can be shown, but, absolutely precisely, will sometime be shown. Where it has come to work, it will reach a high post and when to it it becomes close, will break a ceiling.

Evgenie always was the active worker-member of the Komsomol, in 20 years has married and for five years has given birth to three children. The teacher with three children – whether it is possible to present it in business? But only not that at which in a forehead the star burns. Because during any moment she has let know to relatives: I have executed the debt to a family and to the state, over a demographic situation have worked, and now I am free and I can be engaged in what I want. The open space for activity is necessary to these people, they cannot under someone. It has received the second higher education, became the psychologist, has left school. Also has started to earn money as soon as it became possible. And in each place it began with zero, put business on a stream, and then to it became uninteresting. Eventually, it organised one of the largest in the region treningovyh the companies, in which it both the director, and the trainer, and the adviser. She types a command, works with partners. To it 45 years, at it the three adult children, which by itself are engaged. Also there is a husband who many times tried to persuade her to sit houses. But she all time answers it it: At you what claims to me? Soup on a table is? Children are fed, washed, dressed? All! More than any questions! She constantly studies, she puts up money in company development, she lives on own money, to itself buys cars and clothes such what she wants. They seldom see the husband, and, can, for this reason they have not enough conflicts. But, that is interesting, she does not try to show the house, that it glavnee, it accepts the female "dependent" position. But thus she speaks: the Life goes, and I do not wish to stop! All is awfully interesting to it. And when its relatives try to manipulate it, saying, that the woman should sit at home and show to children an example of a correct family, she answers, that offers children an image of much more interesting life, than traditional mum-housewife. If such woman did not have a possibility to earn, it would supervise over 10 mugs on interests, social movement, would protect the rights of consumers, would collect signatures. These women cannot stop, yes they and cannot be stopped, as it is impossible to stop a running bison. At them it is a lot of energy, and at them from all cracks pret. If to try to bridle it and nevertheless to set the house it all the same will find a way out. At such temperament these women even if will marry the rich man and what will not require, will start to arrange well a site sharply, for example. Also will not stop on a banal management of the gardener. They will participate in competition, to be printed in magazine, then their site will arrive to remove TV, that is they again will cease to live a private life. Or energy will leave in destruktiv, the woman will start to find out relations, will employ the private detective to watch the husband. Though by the nature the woman With a star in a forehead is adjusted on partner relations and if near to it the person clever, it all the same accepts its position, will support its game. And if it accepts its such what it is, it can help it. For example, one my acquaintance, having seen, that his wife so loves holidays, has simply presented to it agency of holidays, than she and is engaged which year. It comes home charged, full of emotions, and does not pull it on trifles. At them very interesting joint life where everyone is realised as the person.

The similar type is called "Honours pupil". If women With a star with anybody are not measured, and simply do that is interesting to them with anybody are not at war girls - "honours pupils" should be not simply good, they should be the best. If the estimation – that the five if it takes part in competition it should win first place, and very much worries, if it not so. Here, for example, Svetlana. It has finished school with a gold medal, has arrived in the most prestigious for that moment institute - MGIMO, and without tutors and intermediaries. On a last year together with several classmates they have registered firm (and, Light in this company was the unique girl, but it has been accepted exclusively for knowledge and brains). In dashing 90 than they only did not trade, from actions to sports planes, now the company, which part of actions belongs to it, – a big exporter of business wood. At Svetlana expensive stylish apartment in which always an ideal order, she despises toy ladies' avtomobilchiki and goes by a jeep (and at the wheel it, naturally, the expert, and in cars understands not worse colleagues-men). She does not love a jewelry, but takes a great interest in rare expensive wine and a snowboard, and moves down from mountains on the most abrupt lines. Last years it began to study Spanish and a free time spends behind reading of "Spaniards" in the original, and during short holidays travels on the seldom visited countries of Latin America. Everything, that it does, it does not just fine, it does best. It has a unique problem – it is lonely. That it "lady Sovershestvo", it terribly frightens men. After the first approach they run up on a gun shot. They understand, that any finding near to it is not simple for the period of the resort novel or on to oversleep after a party, will demand from them the same race. They too should be able to do something in perfection. If not to chase on a snowboard – that to have a black belt on carat, if not to read in Spanish – then to be able in perfection is sticks and to understand nuances of preparation of a land, and also to win all enemies and it is obligatory to earn money. Its man too should be the best. And if it it even yet is not, such it will be done by it. And men understand what to compete to it, being the hired worker with the salary in 2 thousand dollars and vague suspicion, that a career ceiling is already visible, unreal. For men a competitive situation – normal. And consequently with it he will feel itself(himself) dependent, suppressed and lost. And from the lost man – what sense? Therefore it should be at least the movie star or the oligarch (and they, as is known, are remote and by more part are already disassembled).

Besides, such woman and from relations demands an ideal. Understanding from a half-word, unique and unique feelings. But, unfortunately, such ideal is possible only in a separation from a reality, let us assume, on the Internet. Therefore Internet novels at it perfectly develop, but as soon as is found out, that socks of the ideal lover too smell, and its hobby - viewing of sports translations, on it, as a rule, all and comes to an end.

Even if brilliant "honours pupil" will mask under a grey mouse, it hardly will be possible to it. Therefore it should or admit somehow thought that the man nearby in general demands other relation, or to head competition of man's beauty and to take away to herself the winner on an exit. Once in the summer in Turkey I have got acquainted with family: elegant, well dressed mum was with the girl and the beautiful, harmonous young man. The girl has presented the young man so: the mum's friend. Mum floated, danced, participated in show, has registered in all excursions, beautiful silent the mum's friend everywhere accompanied it. "Honours pupil" - a tidbit for the gigolo though it quickly gets to the core of such men.

Still "honours pupil" can go to the psychologist (or to group). It necessarily and there becomes the best and when will start to understand itself, to will get to the bottom of the depths. And if it sets the task to learn to build relations it and it can! The main thing that she has understood that it is necessary to work.

... We Will admit, you gather for a meeting of graduates of years through 20 after leaving school. How you think, who has achieved the biggest success? The honours pupil and hope of school or were the secretary school komosolskoj the organisations, you think. But honours pupils very often stop, because the victory demands such enormous pressure, that they become patients of clinic of neurosises, or break and choose career in more or less silent bank. "Members of the Komsomol-sporstmenki" too can not reach the top: having met excessive obstacles, they will not break a forehead, and there both will stop. Also it can unexpectedly appear, that that from your schoolmates from whom you expected it least has achieved the greatest success. The disgusting duckling. That, which was troechnitsej, by the party-goer and is repeatedly noticed in the bad companies.

Lena grew actually in the street at live parents who to it was not any business. Nobody was interested, as she studied, in how many came home - in so much and came, anybody for what did not abuse her. Parents concerned it, on the one hand, with trust, with another – pofigistski. It was such little girl who is eternal with whom meets, someone leaves, to what especially does not aspire. After school it has arrived in medical school, not to tell, that the most prestigious educational institution. Has worked in children's hospital, then has suddenly entered the university, besides not because something or someone forced it. The same companies, beer, parties there have proceeded. It seems, well, the girl on inclined has swept, even the higher education will not rescue. The higher education really has not rescued, because on a speciality it did not work any day. But once she has reflected: than I most of all in a life like to be engaged? And she always was engaged in what wanted (unlike "honours pupil" on whom something presses all time: parents or aspiration to prove something to someone). Also it has appeared, that most of all in a life it always liked horses. She loved them since the childhood, went for a drive at possibility (expensive horse sections, to it, naturally nobody paid), tusovalas on stables when started up, read about all of them, that is possible. And then she has decided to create one of the information resources first in Russia connected with loshadmi. Such information then was it is not enough, but everything, that is connected with loshadmi, started to become fashionable, and it has become successful. Now, later 10 years, are successful and perspective business. But her life as was unpredictable and full of the events, interesting people, men, unexpected meetings, an extreme, and remained. Among its friends – large businessmen loving horses, politicians, actors. And it remains by itself when gets out from smart iks the third in a mink fur coat under which – the torn jeans soiled in manure. It drives, by the way, absolutely madly, not by rules and not competing on speed. It does not boast, as the honours pupil who very much watches image and does not presume to itself unsuccessful friends. It has a family, but it is faster the agreement concerning children. At them with the husband at everyone the life, the interests, the budget, the truth, she is engaged in a daughter much. Its principle: to be engaged in that is interesting, to be itself and not to break itself – then all simply should develop successfully. It has made so, that work became well paid hobbies though it causes reverential horror in advertisers and couriers. That at it eyes burn, it is very interesting to communicate with it, so it manages that would be not possible at the relation on duty. Disgusting utenki do not search for difficult ways and do itself, simply meeting half-way itself.

Last type biznesvumen, actually, "pseudo"-biznesvumen. It is "Puppet". There are women who supervise over business, but thus remain someone's stavlennitsami. The man – its lover, the father or the husband – completely supervises its business. She, of course, can shout at subordinates, carry on negotiations, go by the car, distribute cut-aways, something to sign, that is, all accessories of a business life it is available. Except the business life which consists in full responsibility for an event, decision-making and the full control. Its basic work is to be the woman of this man. And if she leaves the patron, much will change. Therefore she also tries with it without need not to leave, unless to find to herself another. Its business actually – in a finding of favourable, full resources of men. If one resource comes to an end, it is necessary to search the following. Here risk that if she will believe that it actually supervises the business it was gone. After all business keeps only that depends on you. And if she "puppet" of other person it can supervise something, only if sees these threads. If she them does not see or feeds any illusions in this respect then there is a problem: it is necessary to it to leave from under the control - and it can be at any moment sent on an attic, as any other puppet.
Between profit and love

So all the same than the woman in business differs from the man in business? We have now resulted types of different motivations. It would Seem, same could be and at men. In what a difference? That a position of the woman – is primary dvojstvenaja. Because on social mission, on arhetipicheskim to concepts the woman assotsiiruet itself with love, with the centre, the man – with expansion, with capture of its border are borders of its business. How such women manage to combine that and another? Or, on the contrary – not to combine, transferring a family in business, and business – home? How it manages to keep both that, and another, whether always it is possible? How it manages to be with the man or without the man? And can, during any moments business replaces with itself the man? And it is necessary nothing to it not because in private life all badly and all has fallen, that is why that, on the contrary, in business all is very good: both men there, and emotions there. Energy libido simply passes in other energy, and it is normal, in a female variant it even is easier, than in the man's?

The woman in business is interesting to that she starts to play man's game and to live by rigid rules of the man's world, and thus wishes to remain at least a few woman. If it, of course, not from those who has solved this problem once and for all, simply having ceased to be the woman. They the same as men, roughly talk, as use foul language. By the way, also they drink not less, than men. They as remove stresses, at them the same sit-round gathering with girlfriends, is simple they do not roll under a fence, and are treated in the closed narcological clinics.

But, as it was in a film Office novel, such woman appears is madly vulnerable, if it faces display of emotions. She does not understand, that with it to do. Women in business are afraid to be women because of it their partners or competitors can take advantage. And especially it concerns lonely women: Simply marii "," honours pupils obviously take out personal happiness on the second place. And if it suddenly covers them, in the first impulse they, of course, will rush to a whirlpool, not deliberating but when there will come the second impulse – will stop. Where a guarantee, what it will not be used against it? It is very easy to beat out the business lady from a working condition, having reminded it, that it happens gentle, passionate, obedient, soft. That is, weak. The business lady is impregnable only when has solved for itself this problem and began to supervise emotions the same as all the rest. But when it supervises them, it ceases to be the woman. And then it any more about love, it about more favourable or less favourable relations. These women can be very beautiful, watch themselves, but the beauty becomes its tool in its business wars. And it it is perfect osoznanno resorts to manipulations, plays man's sexuality to knock out the partner-man from its steady position. To say, that thinks, and dejstovat as feels, it is dangerous to it. If the person learns, who it if it will not leave as Gosha from a film Moscow does not trust tears, that, on the contrary, will start to use at once it in the interests. Therefore she will choose is more often loneliness and casual communications, being represented by the teacher, the nurse, the clerk not to cause to itself interest as the head and the proprietor.

There is such joke. On a party the doctor approaches to the lawyer and complains: Well it is impossible anywhere will appear, at once all start to tell, that where whom is ill. And to you why do not stick? – approached, but have ceased, after I after a party began to dispatch next morning accounts for consultations. – About, what remarkable idea! I so too will make! Next morning the doctor has found out in itself in a mail box of an abacus from the lawyer. When Katya had a beloved, she long tried to pretend, that it the operator of the company of MTS. But once its man starts to speak at it about work, and Katya does not maintain and gives it pair of a good advice. It starts to follow them, and is very successful. Gradually their relations from relations of lovers turn to relations of the adviser and the client … And the situation from told begins us before a joke. And after all if you yourselves catch that is time to draw already the account to the hero of your novel, it any more love. It again means, that you have rolled down on favourite the fad – you any more the woman, you already on work, and the end of your love relations is close.

However, it as will appear is close in diametrically protivpolozhnoj to a situation: if you it is unexpected for the beloved decide to "leave". Natalia - the organizer of mass actions, very successful woman very known, very well-founded, with apartment in the elite house. Its two daughters study in private schools, but thus it is lonely, and at it terrible thirst of a man's shoulder nearby. Around many interesting men, but the relation develop under the same scenario. Usually all not bad develops, while during any moment she will not tell: Favourite! I am ready to throw, sit down for the sake of you all at home, to iron your shirts and to make to you a supper. And her very much surprises, that men run up with terrible speed. As soon as the man will imagine, that this charming nuclear reactor will start to be engaged only in it, to it it becomes uneasy and uncomfortable, and it bystrenko does feet.
The husband of the business lady: from pair game to the house psychologist

One of the most cynical business strategy a breast road we will lay themselves simultaneously it appears also the most female. Because the woman here fairly occupies the subordinated position, and it uses. But as we understand, it not to what we aspire. Whether probably all the same to combine the man, a family and work? Probably! Even in business the woman feels the woman, when nearby the man who protects it. For example, when they decide something to do together, and at them joint business. Victoria and Alexey - both very interesting people, they have opened the business, fairly put up in it money. They began with the centre of transfers, and that literally words they collected bottles was necessary to live in the beginning. However, did not search for them in squares, and took out by the car from offices of firms. Everything, for what they undertook, at them burnt in hands. You will tell: and how an immemorial competition who is stronger who more abruptly? But they have counted at once on a command, understanding, in what unique advantage of each of them. Alexey – the strategic genius, it finds niches, finds the markets, finds money, to it is not present equal in communications, it finds communications, manages to persuade not persuaded officials. It opens the company, at it it turns out, people follow it. But during any moment to it it becomes boring, and he starts to look back in search of a new field. And Vick – that person who does not presume that the begun business here so has come to naught. She understands, that a reality – here on the earth, and everything, that has thought up and there has begun Alexey, going woolgathering, it is necessary to hold soft kogistoj a paw. It supervises all, she watches, that all technology was executed correctly. It the business lady in itself, it sovladelitsa the enterprises, very strongly influences strategy, but thus they are good in a tandem. Lesha opens a direction, Vick forces it to "sprout", then finds the hired director who will suit it. And, it, instead of it, after all Lesha-kommunikator with all in good relations. And all consider, that Vick – the stinker, and Leshe smile and make eyes. And it is simply compelled to be such - in their pair game at it such role and if it does not do it, it will be not not done by anybody. The main thing - all works. She very much gets tired of this process though, of course, and understands, that process very important. Actually in its fragile soul there lives dream on a part of the earned money simply to go to an exotic place in tropics and month two to lay on lagoon sand, nothing doing. These beautiful natives are even not necessary to it! But as soon as the end of any project so, its dream can be carried out just about approaches, appears Lesha and speaks: And I have bought the Internet company! And Vick once again does not go anywhere, understanding, that two months in tropical paradise can be fraught with the end of business and, probably, the novel end. Also that is still very important, it, carrying out the female role, is engaged in two daughters, a garden, parents. Basically, and business it, the woman with a star in a forehead, could be engaged one but then it would not have no this call constantly to support itself in shape. And Lesha – not simply partner and the husband, but the friend and the colleague. If joint business leads to divorce wisdom there where it is possible to both, having ceased to be the husband and the wife, to remain partners, continuing to communicate.

One more variant of how to escape in a family with the woman-businessman is a so-called Italian marriage. If you cannot live without the business, and the man, on the contrary, does not burn on work (or burns, but no more than three weeks, such all from itself(himself) creative is not late any more anywhere, or, for example, the writer or the free artist), but it is happy with the realisation, contrary to the social foundations it is possible to accept this situation as due, as happy. Especially, if the person fairly is engaged in the house and children. If the man and the woman thus still are each other interesting (and it is very important, that they remained friends), and the wife does not broadcast to children: Your daddy on what is not capable why is not present? The main thing, that the daddy is a daddy, mum is mum, and they here such. I know many families where all became very happy as soon as the husband ceased to struggle with the wife, and instead of depression or hard drinking became on a position of the sculptor, position Pigmaliona. The woman in business very much gets tired, and such man creates for it a trust field where it can relax, complain, bury in a shoulder, cry, talk to it. It can become the house psychologist, the founder of house atmosphere. And such men of perfectly feel in a similar niche, to it, on the contrary, it is heavy, if from them wait for resolute actions on defeat of competitors and a gain of the markets. If a family – such complementary system, all is normal, whatever spoke to such woman of mum and girlfriends did not think. There is, of course, at such man a fear, that it will find someone more interesting and it will throw. But this fear does not allow it to fall or spitsja, forces to be interesting. After all the purpose not in pleasing a society, the purpose - to find reasonable addition. And if the woman plays man's game outside of the house it can find a man's shoulder in its walls and relax.